He screams, we all scream...

Lets cut to the chase- Feedback. Good, bad, everything in between can be one of the most important things that we receive in life. Getting feedback can be overwhelming. It can come in many forms- compliments to hate comments on the internet. Everything is feedback if you look at it the right way. However, how do we figure out which feedback really matters to us?

Simply put, you need to accept feedback from the right people for the right things. In any experiment there is a control and an answer you are searching for. Hell even to serve on a jury you have to find people without bias. Who can you trust to give you the right answers when you need them most?

Quantity does not matter here. Quality is everything. If you interviewed 100 people a great dress for an anniversary dinner with you boyfriend, you'll get a lot of varying answers. Everything is subjective. You'll get so many answers your head will start to spin. It won't ever matter because 90% of those people could vote on one and then your boyfriend could hate it. So how to we get around it?

For one, you need to surround yourself with good trustworthy people. People without bias. Therapy is a great tool for this. But also having a support system that calls you out, not to be cruel.

Delivering constructive criticism is one of the most important things I believe we can do for each other as people. To find people who will ACTIVELY- yes actively- listen to what you have to say and look at both sides of the coin.

And second, you need to learn to trust your intuition. Your gut is always right. Don't let your own thoughts get so convoluted in what everyone else has to say that you forget who you are. This is crucial.Know your beliefs and know what you want to stand for in life. Having purpose helps with this.

You have to learn to filter out the bullshit of life- with people, feedback, and negative self talk.

Just because he screams, or they scream doesn't mean you have to get ice cream.

Feedback is great, but don't forget to listen to your own true thoughts in the first place.

Go be weird.

XO Hika XO